Dating men who are separated
I was high on the spark between us and thrilled by the potential of what might be.It was no laughing matter, but I didn't know that yet.On our first date, and then our second, and our third, we skimmed the surface of our respective relationship histories and hinted at the baggage we both dragged behind us. I co-parent with a man who once loved me, then despised me, and is now what I would tentatively consider a friend.Fairly light baggage, like a rucksack that slots neatly into the overhead compartment.So the man you are falling for is still legally tied to his wife. It means that until a final divorce decree is issued all of this man’s assets and liabilities are still connected to his wife, no matter what he might have told you about accounts having been divided.His life, in other words, is still connected to her.
Trust your inner wisdom on this one: you are at risk of giving your heart away to a man who is still married to another woman.
But there can be no future with a man who is legally bound to another woman.
In my judgment, it’s best to leave married folks to themselves to work out their differences and decide what they are going to do about the future of their marriage.
In the meantime, you deserve to be loved by someone who loves you so much that he will go to great lengths not to hurt you. He’s out there, and he’s not asking you to nick away at your own heart in order to be with him.
He wants your heart the same way he wants to give you his heart: whole and undivided.